All The Things You Want To Know About A Long-Term Relationship

All The Things You Want To Know About A Long-Term Relationship

If you didn’t know yet, I have been dating Ben for almost a year and a half. Throughout this relationship, I have learned a lot about myself and a lot about relationships and how to make them work. So, here are some of those things:

  1. It’s about caring about one another: If you feel you aren’t ready to invest your time in someone else, you aren’t ready to be in a relationship. Caring for your significant other is a very important part of a relationship, and if you can’t handle that, you can’t handle a relationship.
  2. Make time: Where there’s a will, there’s a way. If you are not making time for someone or vice versa, then your relationship will suffer.
  3. Change is constant: When you are with someone for a long time, other changes will take place in your life than can affect the dynamic of your relationship. Accept that. Ben and I are getting ready to go to college in a year, which is a lot different from when we were early in high school. As you age, your relationship may have to change. Let it. It is normal.
  4. Never stop trying: Even just writing a quick note or performing an act of kindness for your partner is important long-term. Don’t just give up on these things after a few months. Keep trying to keep them in love with you.
  5. Make time for other people: While it is important to spend time with your significant other, make sure you have time with your friends and family outside of that. For example, ladies, your boyfriend probably isn’t the best person to take to Forever 21. Go with your girlfriends.
  6. Do things you both enjoy: While we’re on the topic, if your partner doesn’t like to shop, or hike, or surf, don’t force them. Find activities you both enjoy and have in common and spend time on those things when you are together.
  7. You don’t have to be the same person: Just because your partner likes sushi doesn’t mean you have to. You will be different in some ways, and that is okay. However, make sure you have enough common interests to get along.
  8. Have a backup plan: Sometimes you try to go on a nice date and nothing goes your way. There’s traffic, the restaurant is closed, or the weather doesn’t hold out. Have a restaurant or a movie that you can always fall back on in case Plan A fails.
  9. Keep your private life private: You don’t need to tell your friends about everything that goes on in your relationship. Let people imagine if they really want to. For example, if you and your partner get into an argument, sharing this with your friends might only lead to more trouble. Know what to keep to yourself.
  10. Always be in love: You should always be happy to see your significant other, and you should always miss them when they are gone. This is a rule. No matter what happens, your love for your significant other should never end.

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