I have come to the realization that I have been involved in toxic relationships during my life. While these relationships can be draining, manipulative, and hurtful, many people find themselves too far involved to escape. Here are some ways to spot a toxic person:
Part I: How To Spot A Toxic Relationship
- You have to walk on eggshells: If you are afraid to say or do anything in the presence of this person in the fear of setting them off, this is a sign that there is a problem with your relationship. You shouldn’t have to be afraid all the time when you’re not doing anything wrong.
- You can’t be yourself: You have to act differently when you are with this person because you are afraid being yourself will set them off. This is another red flag- friends should accept you as you are.
- You feel trapped: You feel like you aren’t allowed to end this relationship. Guess what? You’re always allowed, and if someone makes you feel differently, they are toxic.
- You don’t feel energized after seeing this person: Your friends should build you up, not tear you down. If this person constantly takes from you and never gives, rethink the relationship. As my dad always says, friendships are a two-way street.
- You’re feeling a bad vibe: Chances are, your intuition will be correct. If above all these signs you just feel a bad vibe, cut ties. Follow your gut- it knows who you can trust.
Part II: How To End A Toxic Relationship: A Comprehensive List
Step 1: Say Goodbye
Step 2: Block the toxic on social media. If they approach you in person, be civilized but do not engage with them.
Step 3: Throw out old pictures and memorabilia of this person.
Step 4: Hang out with other people.
Step 5: Don’t stalk the toxic on social media.
Step 6: Realize your self-worth again.
Step 7: Be free.
While this post was on the heavier side, it is important to diagnose these issues early on. If you continue a toxic relationship for too long, you will begin to lose who you are. Someday I would like to share my experiences, but for now, I want to focus on helping others. Remember, you are the most important person in your life, not someone else. Advocate for yourself, and don’t be afraid to end a bad relationship.
Thank you for reading, and I sincerely hope this was helpful.