Today, I want to talk about a little something called self-acceptance. High school was a huge turning point in my life because I learned to love myself unconditionally. I learned to be kind to myself and embrace who I am and what I look like.
That was not always the case…
Like most girls, I struggled to accept myself as I am. There was always something holding me back: my skin, my clothes, my weight, my intelligence. In my eyes, none of those were ever “good enough.” I was harder on myself than anyone else could possibly be.
I wasted so much time judging myself so harshly that I wasn’t making myself available to other people. A lot of my relationships went to hell because I was so self-centered and, to be frank, narcissistic.
I think growing out of that self-absorbed state of mind is part of becoming an adult. But a lot more of it has to do with making a conscious effort to look in the mirror and say, “You are perfect exactly the way you are.” Yes, in the beginning it totally feels like you’re lying to yourself. The point of this little exercise is to start replacing those negative, self-destructive thoughts with positive ones. Sooner or later, you’ll start believing them. Sooner or later, you’ll be able to say with confidence that you love yourself.
You have to play for your own team. It’s okay to be down for a little bit if you gain a few pounds or earn a poor grade on a test…but you have to realize that these things happen to everyone, and letting it destroy your confidence is a major step backward.
You have to be secure enough in your own skin to roll with those punches.
This is all easier said than done, which is why I recommend taking full advantage of this time. When you’re young and single, you need to spend every minute working on improving yourself. Give yourself something to be proud of. Throw yourself into a project, find something to do that you’re passionate about, and use the guts I know you have to do something amazing.
Your confidence needs to come from a lot of sources. And you need to spend a whole lot of energy to keep it going. This is your time to be selfish. Make it worth your while.
It will all be worth it when the day comes that you look at yourself, all of yourself, and are happy with what you have.
I hope that day is soon. I hope it’s today.
Thanks for reading!