I know you’ve been hearing me talk about my newfound happiness, blah blah, good vibes and all that. But I wanted to explain a little more on how I got here. I didn’t just wake up one morning and decide to let go of all my problems and stress (though I wish it were that easy). This took a lot of work.
A lot of us deal with stress, and sometime’s there’s no escaping it. You have to go to school, you have to have a job, bad things happen. So the idea of living in the absence of stress doesn’t make any sense.
Instead, I try to focus on making the best with what I have now- something I struggled with and sometimes still do. I call this: “rolling with the punches.”
Where do you start?
Structured Journaling: Sitting down to write can be daunting, because um writer’s block is a thing. Luckily, there are hundreds of journals and even phone apps that give prompts you can respond to. They really help you practice gratitude and keep track of how you’re feeling.
Perspective: Whenever I’m upset, I try to consider the magnitude of the problem. If it’s not a “grand scheme of things” issue, it’s not worth a meltdown. But you’re allowed to be upset and cry sometimes, just don’t let the comfort of tears get the best of you always. And, it’s important to take into account that we are living human beings in a Goldilocks solar system and we have flowers and good music and smoothie bowls. There are more good things in the world than bad. We can’t be too arrogant and think we’re greater than the universe and whatever Higher Power may exist. We’re here, isn’t that enough?
Minimalism: Never did I think I would take any interest in becoming a minimalist. I used to watch Tiny House Hunters and think those people were lunatics. Turns out, they’re not so crazy. Reducing my clutter has been the number one factor in curbing my anxiety. And, I focus my happiness more on experiences than on material things. I’m not where I want to be with minimalism yet, but I’m getting there. Once you start decluttering, you realize the burden that “stuff” has on your mind.
Aromatherapy: Essential oils work. I use “focus” blends when I’m studying and I put lavender oil into my diffuser and leave it running while I sleep. It makes a world of difference and I sleep wonderfully now.
Health: Managing my health in a non-obsessive way has been a long road and I never thought I could make it happen. Now, I am deliberate about what vitamins I take, what exercises I do, and I eat a balance. I do exercises that I look forward to and I eat foods I love. I only take the vitamins necessary to feel good. I don’t count numbers, I just live. I feel great. Leave me a comment if I should do a Recovery Road post on working out after an eating disorder!
Pura Vida: The idea of living in the moment and going with the flow. I listen to the universe. If something’s pulling me to Dunkin’ Donuts, b!tch you know that’s where I’m goin’. If I feel compelled to go for a hike or practice yoga or lay out in the driveway in the sun, I’m just doing it. I’m trying to say yes more. I’m accepting what does and doesn’t fall into place. I’ve never been happier.
Cutting Out Toxic Everything: Habits. People. Instagram accounts. DELETE THEM ALL! You don’t need that ish in your life.
And that’s that.
Thanks for reading!