A few days ago, I wrote about forgiveness and how it can help you release and move on. I mostly talked about forgiving others…but ever since, I’ve been thinking about how we forgive ourselves.
Even if you’re not necessarily an empath, you’ve probably held on to bad experiences and felt a pang of guilt when those memories surface. I think we’re all familiar with that feeling. Sometimes you’re sorry for something that happened years ago, but the time has passed and you can’t apologize. Maybe someone isn’t part of your life anymore, or distance has caused you to drift apart. So you have to settle for this: you are sorry. You have learned a lesson. And you can move on and be a better person, but only if you can accept and let go of a mistake you made in the past. Feeling guilt and hurt over it isn’t serving you in the present. And your suffering is not improving the life of the person you feel you’ve hurt.
I’ve been holding on to a lot of remorse and guilt all directed at myself for many months now…but carrying that isn’t improving my current relationships. Allowing myself to let go and move on helps me focus on who I want to be in the present moment. And that’s the real you: right now. It doesn’t matter what you said yesterday or what you think you’ll say tomorrow. Who you are is determined by how you act right now, and wallowing in guilt is pulling you back into the past.
You can’t change the past and you can’t control the future. But you can control who you are now; so put the guilt and the nervousness aside and decide who you want to be. That’s what matters.
What do you think? Are you holding on to guilt that you want to let go of? Is it okay to move on? Let me know in the comments!
I love you all! Thanks for reading.