My dating app phase was not a good one.
I downloaded Bumble after things fell through with someone I liked. I got it for all the wrong reasons- mostly because I felt rejected and wanted a distraction from how upset I was.
I knew it was a bad idea, but I did it anyway because I wanted to feel desirable- fast. After a few weeks, I realized that my behavior was unhealthy and was just a way of coping with problems I was going through. All I was doing was projecting my issues onto the guys I matched with. As a result, nothing ever went anywhere and I was still unhappy.
I watched a documentary called Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age. The movie explains that dating apps are like a casino game, and people get hooked on the thrill of matching with people. It’s a type of psychological conditioning than becomes addictive. Being that it’s so easy to find people on these apps, it’s harder to make connections in real life. One in two single people are on a dating app!
Some people have good luck with dating apps. For me though, it was an escape from my problems. Downloading these apps was easy and gave me an extra boost when I wanted it.
I don’t really want to meet anyone that way. You choose what goes on your profile, so I don’t think it’s an accurate representation. I would rather someone meet me in person and like me for me- not the perfect picture I show.
Dating nowadays is tough, especially because these apps exist. I think they create a culture where people are disposable, and that’s not right.
I hope things change one day.