I can’t believe this is my third time writing one of these. I am so thankful that this website has become a way to look back on my life and what I have learned.
Here are 19 things I learned by my 19th birthday:
- Stop taking everything so personally. What other people say and do usually has less to do with you and more to do with them.
- Having more money is not worth compromising your happiness.
- Take care of yourself. Self-care isn’t always about bubble baths. If you need therapy, go. If you need to rest, then rest.
- If something bad happens to you, you can and will get through it. There’s no other choice. So don’t spend your life being fearful of all that can go wrong.
- If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, it probably isn’t.
- Don’t. Call. Him.
- Cherish small moments of joy. They are the most important part of life.
- Always be kind, even when people are not kind to you.
- You will go through times in your life when you feel lost. That’s okay. You’ll find your way. Stop looking so hard.
- Take your time to do everything you do well. Life is not a race or a competition.
- Do not waste your time trying to convince people who don’t believe in you. Stick with the people who support even your craziest ideas.
- You need to make room in your life for the right things. Don’t expect to land the job of your dreams when you haven’t yet quit the job that you hate. Don’t expect to find the love of your life if you keep going back to the person who always hurts you. Sometimes, you have to break something off to get what you really need.
- Learn to forgive and move on. Try not to carry anger around everywhere you go.
- Do fun stuff for the heck of it. Go to the park by yourself. Take yourself out for ice cream. Dye your hair pink at 11PM in your bathroom. Live a little. Routines are nice but have some fun!
- Friendships are transient, but true friends will always be there for you and will not judge you for your mistakes.
- You have to work hard to make it. Be a go-getter.
- Be honest. Honesty is always the best policy.
- When people are bashing themselves, do not join in by bashing yourself, too. When I hear someone say before an exam, “I’m gonna fail,” I don’t say, “Yeah me too!” I say, “You’ll do great.” Don’t feed into negative self-talk.
- Feel all the feelings. If you’re sad, cry. If you’re mad, scream into a pillow or listen to some angry music. If you’re happy, be in the moment and freaking enjoy it. Allow yourself to feel everything.
Thanks for reading!